Do Nothing, Say Nothing December 2012

We learned:
(positive)
1. Both kids went to school every day.
2. Hazel got herself all ready for school in the morning with only wake-up, the ten-minute timer, and being told when it is time to go outside.
3. Both kids stayed reasonable in terms of dessert amounts.
4. Both kids got to sleep at a reasonable time on school nights.
5. Toby cleared his dishes without being asked, Hazel did sometimes.
6. Hazel remembered to brush her teeth every morning.
7. Screentime was more than usual but not outrageous.
8. Hazel ate some breakfast every day.
9. Hazel wore new clothes almost every day.
10. Hazel put on a pull-up before bed almost every night.
11. Toby got up for school and out to the bus on time every day on his own.
12. Both kids made and remembered their lunch every day.
13. Not one poop was discovered left sitting in the toilet!
(areas to work on)
1. Without consequences or reminders, Toby brushed his teeth 3 times this week (twice with reminders).
2. Toby ate breakfast 2 times this week.
3. Hazel bathed once without soap, Toby did not bathe.
4. Toby never had a bedtime snack.
5. Toby never changed his clothes.
6. Hazel did not do any homework.
7. There were toys, clothes, and used tissues all over the floor in almost every room.

Things to consider:

1. dessert rules
2. screentime rules
3. bedtime
4. lunch reminders

Parental involvement needed (non-negotiable at this time):

1. Toby's teeth (braces, history of decay requiring prescription-strength toothpaste)
2. Toby's eating breakfast and bedtime snack (prescribed by endocrinologist)
3. Hazel's homework
   

Areas to work on together:

1. Toby's clothes
2. bathing
3. mess
   

December Trial Period

For the rest of 2012, we will try out the following agreements and decide on New Year's Day if they are working or need modification.

Privilege                                       Responsibilities

1. no screentime rules other         -homework and reading get done

than screentime ends at 8 p.m.     -eat dinner and bedtime snack (T)

                                                      -reasonable bedtime

                                                      -have some social interaction with

                                                       family

                                                      -brush teeth before bed

2. no dessert rules                         -eat healthy meals/foods

                                                      -eat dessert after healthy foods

                                                      -no candy in the morning

3. no bedtime rules other than      -get enough sleep to wake up on time

after 8:30 is grown-up quiet time       and not be cranky

(don't ask for anything)

New agreements for problem areas (suggested by children):

1. bathing – Toby plans to bathe on Sundays, shower on Tuesdays when he gets home from school, Hazel plans to bathe Tues, Thurs, Saturday

Parents remind

2. Toby's clothes – he will change into all new clothes before bed

- he will make a dry erase board list each evening of things to do

    

3. mess – make mess in your own room – Dad will put the door back on Hazel's room

- the only toys in the family room will be recent gifts
- one activity out at a time in family room
- Mom will not go into children's rooms (so I don't have to see the mess - this means H puts her own laundry away and she can't have a bedtime snuggle in her own bed)