My stepmother

My stepmother confided that she is having nightmares about Toby having more independence than he can handle, being lost in the mall or gettung hit by a car, and things like that. She definitely appreciates the value of pushing the kids to learn how to do all these things but it scares her. She said that when her brother was in college, their mother would bring him things that he had forgotten. The part that is most difficult for her to imagine doing is divorcing oneself from worry about the child experiencing natural consequences - for her college-student granddaughter, things like missing deadlines or sleeping through classes. So a related piece of homework for me: what skills did I lack upon entering adulthood, that I want to impart to my children before they leave home?